Choose Your Battles
“Choose your battles wisely. After all, life isn’t measured by how many times you stood up to fight. It’s not winning battles that makes you happy, but it’s how many times you turned away and chose to look into a better direction. Life is too short to spend it on warring. Fight only the most, most, most important ones, let the rest go.” ~ C. JoyBell C.
Many are the times we are faced with situations that leave us feeling like we’re in a battle field, you just don’t know what the next move will be. It’s either you’re firing away or you’re the one holding the shield to protect yourself. Then again we’re left with the choice to decide whether we are going to make it a battle field or we’ll just retreat, call it truce and move unto other important things. Well, in writing it sounds pretty easy and fancy but in reality, it’s one of the most difficult things to do. This you letting down your guard and hoping to solve whatever it is amicably with a person who has probably gotten you to your last *not so amused* nerve.
We are all human, we are all bound to make mistakes here and there even when we mean good, sometimes so innocently that it surprises you that it actually made someone pretty pissed
ha-ha guess who’s a culprit, ask the mister. Consciously or subconsciously, we get on to someones nerves. This happens almost every other day, so imagine if every-time this happened, we chose to get into the battle field, fight for our rights and see who comes out winner. There are also those times that you even know you’re the source of the battle, that if you just came forth, apologized and straightened things out, things will be at ease.
Basically, it’s not everything that gets to your nerve should be worth a fight. Fights should be chosen wisely. Know when to come out armed, when to fire out, when to hold your fire or shield and so on. But also know when to retreat, because in every fight, there are winners, losers and/or eventually enemies.
So really, if it’s your partner, your parents or even your siblings and you’re having a fight, be sure to know when to retreat, when to raise the white flag saying, “let’s sort this out.” Because where there’s a winner and a loser assuming the battle has to eventually come to an end (maybe with the help of internal or external forces), in which case an enemy lingers. Ever been to paint-ball? Best scenario, when you’re told to give up, just raise your hand…well, trying to picture it in a fight, damn! Makes you feel like a woos, but it’s for the good trust me, things you do for love.
The best thing about these battles, sought or unsought, chosen or abandoned, is that once the dust has settled, you can talk about it and maybe laugh about it, if it was funny. After all what is it about winning battles anyway? So lets say you win a battle and then? If am the one on the losing end, I’ll feel wrecked and probably look for a way to get back at you, I mean who wants to carry the “L” sign on the forehead? I sure don’t want. So fights, are about compromising, coming to an agreement, calling it truce. Unless it’s beyond repair, then we can have the winner and loser! Read this one though, it’s a funny one.
Humor is the spiciest condiment in the feast of existence. Laugh at your mistakes but learn from them, joke over your troubles but gather strength from them, make a jest of your difficulties but overcome them.
In other non-related news,
How earphones get tangled while in your pocket or bag? I mean not that they have so much space, but the tangling that happens there baffles me. Maybe the pair doesn’t get along *bulb light* and since they don’t have much of a choice the best they can do is strangle each other, hence the tangling…lol. If only earphones were humans, this would make so much sense. Otherwise, it remains a ghostly mystery.
Ps: Happy Birthday to an amazing and special friend, Liz Njeri Karanja. A big Shout Out to you. May you have many more and be blessed because you more than deserve it. Much Love. To my readers, hope your Tuesday is as terrific as it’s supposed to be, mine is. I believe.
Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*