Ho’s n Bro’s
So yesterday(Sunday), I had some good sleep, then woke up at about 10:00am and lazed around as I prepared to go to church. I have a bad habit of being late, so I am really trying my best to kill it. before I start saying “old habits die hard”…how I hate that saying because sometimes its painfully true. Discovered that all i need to do is always wake up 30minutes earlier than the my normal waking up time 🙂
Anyhow, that’s besides the point. So i go to church, and since I am late I have to go to the teens service, and thats when you feel a bit old because kids are screaming when the preacher utters any word, oh trust me it does get to your most inner nerves…especially the one that gets irritated…lol oh and the preacher comes, the topic for today is ‘Homosexuality’… oh no!…’Homo phobic’ its meant to be…so i switch off. And a good friend of mines texts me and asks if we can do lunch…phew!
So we meet up for lunch with my friend, and through our conversation, we start talking about friends…like friends literally. who’s in your inner circle and why???? Then I remember that for a long time I had been praying for good friends (I know, I pray for everything…oops) because I used to believe that all I had were acquaintances(in this case, they are those people who know you through occasional meetings, or hang out with you but have very minimal information on you). Like all through my primary school and high school, i believed that I had no friends really, again just acquaintances. Personally I hate cliques, catch me dead in one, i could hang out with people a lot but under no circumstance would I form a clique…that’s what primary school and high school friends were about.
So I joined campus with still the same mentality of acquaintances. So that you know, thats a very bad mental picture. Thats what kept me off friends, made me a bad communicator then. I never kept in touch with people. It was like “Out of sight, out of mind”. The only good thing about it is that I rarely got disappointed because I did not have expectations from any one, oh, plus no drama whatsoever because i thought no one really cares or expects anything from me.
The best thing in campus that happened to me, was dating. That was my eye opener. That made realize that, you need friends. I won’t go into detail per se, but when I started dating I got absorbed into my then boyfriends friends….ooh thats the worst thing you can do. Because they are the ones I hang out with like all the time, the people i thought of as my acquaintances, i let go somehow, which was through less communication. So the big lesson on friends, came in when we broke up…I did not have my own friends, and it wasn’t logical to hang out with his friends again, that would be more of Hogging his friends…lol
Every step in life should be a lesson learnt to be able to make you move ahead. Sometimes I say am a lucky girl because I do learn from previous mistakes. So I told myself that before I get into another relationship i should identify and make my own friends first…that had been my social agenda for the whole of my final year in campus, that again is one of the decisions i made that am proud of. Because I can now proudly say i got my own friends. And this saying is so true
“Plant a seed of friendship, reap a bouquet of happiness” —Lois.L.Kaufman
I would say that because I got the best girlfriends one can have.. Honestly, i know if i call them, they’ll come to my aid, be it a happy or sad moment. And I would do the same for them any day and without hesitation. I know they probably don’t know this but they have taught me how to have and keep friends. Never in my life had I thought I can get along with girls…haha right now i don’t think I can do without them.
Thats where my Ho’s comes in, the ladies in my life are very important, i treasure them. Heres a brief listing of how important they are:
They will be there when you are going through the crappiest of times. The best thing being they’ve ever gone through the same sh*t, or they know some one who has gone through the same.
They give you sound advise on stuff… be it boys, girls, clothes, oils, soap..anything, you just name it. They are that diversifies…haha
They will listen to you… when you whine about your baggage, and trust me they will help you whine too.
They will bitch about boys with you…generally speaking. Thats always the hottest topic.
They will toast with you when your happy about something. And will make you laugh till your ribs ache, and tears roll.
They will come for your party when everyone else could probably ignore it.
They keep me company, when am absolutely plot less or bored and they will liven up that moment.
They will compliment you when you look nice&lovely, and tell you your looking a bit funny when your— they are that honest.
They will take you for shopping and not hurry you around if you ain’t getting what you want, they will take you to all the shops watch you try out clothes laugh about it and not complain because they’re having fun with you.
They know me and love me for who I am.
- Lastly, they’ll sit with you for hours..yap yap about anything and everything, laugh and forget that its getting late…haha had to drop this one in.
Those are the ho’s i have in my life right now …. and I love them in excess. Life would be super boring without them, and am glad I realized that soon enough.
So then comes the bro’s…mmmh! This are the boys in my life. In this case I shall exclude my boyfriend because he’s in a league of his own…oops! This guys are really important too. But you have to chose them wisely..haha cause you could have a hungry canning fox as your bro n man your so totally doomed. I have come across such in my 22yrs of living. But its a good thing, because that again is a learning experience. Read this somewhere,
“Mistakes are the usual bridge between inexperience and wisdom”
So all those boy mistakes I have made previously have modeled me into who I am today. Cheers to you. Its so funny how to relate with boys/girls its like you need a manual, or rather thats how many people view/put it, its like there are rules and regulation…i mean, boys, they are just human beings like the girls too. they have everything the girl has of course except the physical appearances and bodily functions , male testosterone vs female estrogen, otherwise every other thing is the same they’ve got feelings, they get hurt, they get happy and sad. If you pour something hot on them they get burnt too…okay, am now being sarcastic. But honestly, theres no rule in any book that stipulates how you should treat a man/woman, or even if you get any, it wont work, because you have to learn the person and know what it is that they want/like because every person is different. My thought, you have to learn and grow into people to know what tickles their fancy, what puts them off.
Funny thing is that those books are written by a person just like you. So what makes you think its something you cant handle?? Food for thought. And maybe their research is directed to self… like they are also trying to understand this other being.
Okay, I think I have digressed a bit there, So heres a brief listing of how important the bro’s in my life y are:
- They will take care of me under any circumstances, a ride from the rave, lunches and dinner, if i call them with a problem.
- They sort out any one who harasses me 🙂
- They will be there for me when i need them.
- They will make me laugh a good one.
They know me and love me for who I am.
They always check up to see if am okay, which is totally cool.
They keep in touch even when am a bum and i disappear or keep silent for long.
They are easy to please…hehe like i don’t have to climb a mountain or cross the ocean for them to appreciate. Its the little things that count.
They always look out for the best for you, like education, work. and push you to do your best.
They give you advice about the fellow boys and the tactics they play…oh yah, i know quite a couple.
Oh thats what we were actually discussing with my friend on Sunday afternoon, quite a fulfilling discussion because I came to think about so much.
The part I like the best is when my friend said that when he’s looking for friends he doesn’t look for people who think he’s has made it (and yet he really hasn’t) , he looks for people who look up to him and who he looks up to. People he can associate and get to learn one or two things from. This is in all aspects of life. I think thats what friends are for sure.
I believe that friendship should never die, it should grow to greater heights. A friend should be there for you through thick and thin, through smooth and rough, its like a marriage of sorts, just that this one has no certificates or i do and may you kiss the bride followed by a honeymoon, but it the same in terms of, its a lifetime commitment, the kind of till death do us part. Thats what i view my friendships as. And whenever i make a friend i always think long-term, never short-term, if its that way then I wouldn’t even bother in the first place.
Am not saying am the perfect friend though…point of defense, gosh I got my weaknesses, but I keep improving, am becoming a better and better friend through my friends whom i emulate sometimes.
Hence i would go with ” Ho’s and bro’s” and not “ho’s over bro’s “or “ho’s before bro’s.”….
Quick Question: So what do you call this people who you know but are just dormant in your life, but when you meet they’ll be happy or pretend to be, they’ll want to know how you’ve been since you last met which is probably ages ago, then they’ll say bye and will ask for your number again because they apparently loose phones so much and your number is always lost with the phone..haha
Quick Answer: Thats what i would nowadays proudly call, “an acquaintance”
Signing off ::: *Kawi*