Always #LikeAGirl.

*Disclaimer: Just felt like writing something based on the campaign, but I’m not in any way associated with or endorsing Always.

I work with music and sometimes with imaginary music. When I have my headphones on and nothing is actually playing, but for some reason it feels like the music is on – and then I get into my zone. Does that ever happen to you? Anyway, as I was doing my internet rounds some time, I happened to come across this lovely ad. Confession, I love Safaricom and Samsung ads, the rest, I just “Skip Ad”. That aside, have you watched the Always #LikeAGirl ad, no? You can watch it here.

It took me down memory lane. I remember when I wrote this “Yes, I’m a Girl” post. We girls are really sensitive, I know dudes are too (I’m just massaging your ego by the way), but we’re a special breed and by all means, in a good way. That’s why people would tell you you’re doing something “like a girl”. I don’t think it’s an insult per se, that’s what most people perceive it to be. But I don’t think when someone says it that’s what they intend to mean. It’s just that we girls, do things delicately and with such grace. It’s in our nature to be gentle that sometimes it tends to look like you’re weak. Then if you did things in a manly way and had manly features to top that – you’d be classified as a tomboy – which isn’t a good thing either.

I grew up in the 90’s. And because technology had not been fully discovered – the best we had then was Nintendo, Joy Game for the rich kids and brick games, Ending Man (a cheaper version of the Nintendo that used cartridges – 90 in 1 games, my favorite being Duck Hunt, Super Mario etc.) for the rest of us, but that was late in the 90’s. Before that, we were big on outdoor games. You know the kind that got you dirty from head to toe – the hop scotch, kati, shake, rounder’s (the own African version of baseball), bladder, scramboo (with our little BMX bikes, we could do wonders when it came to making 3600 turns). By the time you’re being called back to the house in the evening, the 1st task was to jump into the shower. I can bet all kids had that same routine, because there’s no way you were sitting on the couch with those clothes or that body.

Nintendo, Always, #LikeAGirl, Back in th Day

When we used do this outdoor games, most of them required you to display your masculine side, because they were quite aggressive and tactical. And if you throw a ball in a light or curvy manner, you’d be told, “stop throwing like a girl” or if you got hurt and you started crying, someone will do “stop crying like a girl”. If you happened to be identified as the weaker link by the other kids, you’d be placed as the “helper”. The helper was the useless person in the games – the one who’s given zero roles or attention in the course of the game because you’re team-less and you had no impact on the outcome of the game. It happened to you when the kids were selecting teams and no one wanted you on their teams because you’d make them lose. For some reason, it was always a girl or a boy who’s like a girl … been there, you feel “if only the world could open up and swallow me up” or “if only I could be invisible for a moment”.

Always be the first one to believe in yourself, even before anyone else does, because if you don’t, you might just end up disappointed or de-psyched. ~ Kawi

I know it’s tough believing in yourself – it is even for me most of the time, even when I know I’ve got it. But you don’t have much of a choice, not in this competitive world.

Now that I’m a grown up woman, I look back at my young and wild days, and I’m like, I’m glad I did everything I did #LikeAGirl. I wouldn’t do it any different given another chance because it is in my nature to do things as I do. For me to have gotten as far as I have based on what I do, I sure was doing something right, at least being a girl. So don’t let the experiences in your childhood or teenage hood define who you’ll be or what you’ll do. Just know that by being you, especially the best version of you, things will always turn out great.

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

  • Amy

    Kawi, the first thought that came to my mind when I read this post is, “awww, she sounds so girly, so lovely”. I loved this post you wrote Kawi. And by nature, our biological and psychological makeup are different than men. That’s why sometimes I see some of our “sisters” trying so hard to prove they are as masculine as men and stuff, it comes off a little silly. Not that I have anything against it. But if you have it in you, then you have it in you. If not, then just be proud of your femininity. And the power of femininity is empowering and profound. After all, we have to be in touch of our woman’s identity, it’s our strength. As far as it goes for me, haha, I’d love to be softer, to be honest. Because as you said, being a tomboy is not always a good thing. Not to judge or anything, it just proves lack of security and confidence in our nature.

    • You’re totally right Amy, you just wrapped up my post in a cute little bow and made lots of sense out of it. That’s what I meant to say in not so many words 🙂

      Hope you’re well? Thanks for always passing by 🙂 have an amazing weekend.

  • Amy

    Again, I appreciate this post so much, like you don’t even know, hehe. I’ve been thinking about it for a while. There is so much to say about feminism since I feel like lots of us out there just focusing in a more superficial aspect of thing. I think that it takes strength to be comfortable in our own skin and work with our counterpart instead of comparing ourselves with them. We are indeed different. The fact that we deny our innate needs and desires makes us more vulnerable to social influences. Sure, discrimination happens in all facets of life. But we also need to remember that expansion is there, too. Just look at one dimension and ignore the rest, it won’t help improving anything. We can hold our ground intellectually, and work with integrity just like any other human. Labels restrict our growth.
    I am so passionate about this issue as you can tell, haha. Oh, and congratulation on the engagement, Kawi!!! I am so happy for you. As for me, I’ve been traveling a bit this year.