Criticism 101

Criticism is the judgement of the merits and faults of the work or actions of an individual or group by another (the critic). To criticize does not necessarily imply to find fault, but the word is often taken to mean the simple expression of an objection against prejudice, or a disapproval ~ Wikipedia

“Criticism is something we can avoid easily by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing” ~ Aristotle

Who doesn’t want to do something and get all praises and positive feedback … you know the whole “Congratulations” , “you’re doing so well”, “I like how you do this and that”… We all strive and live for such commendations. That’s why we work our asses *forgive my grammar* off. That’s why we try to do things to perfection, to get that feedback that makes you feel worthy and of value.

So what happens when all you do seems to  raise eyebrows and gets people picking their noses into your business? When anything you do gets negative comments or reactions? The kind where there’s nothing to keep you going.

“Criticism is the disapproval of people, not for having faults, but having faults different from your own.” ~ Unknown

There are some people who thrive in criticism, it’s like their fuel. If a day goes by without them saying something negative … it’s like a day without food.  I usually tend to think that some people use criticism as a way to pamper their ego, make them feel better about themselves, because they don’t see how others can be doing better than they are. There are some things that don’t really need to be criticized, maybe just corrected a little bit to make the situation better, but instead of doing that, the person criticizes to the extent of dampening the other persons spirit. As they say, “It is easier to be critical than correct.”

“A critic is someone who never actually goes to the battle, yet who afterwards comes out shooting the wounded”~ Tyne Daly

You find that someone has worked so hard, to get what they have and be who they are – similar to being in the battle field, they have fought the fight, in the midst gotten themselves wounded, physically drained and still striving harder to survive in this crazy world. And just after the battle is over and one has won, comes someone (the critic) who has probably been up to nothing, maybe watching from the side line as the other fights their fight.

My take … is that in this world, there will always be the fighters and the side liners (the audience). Same way we sit on our couches, watch a movie or ball and after it’s over … we are like that movie/game was so boring, quality was so bad, the actors were … bleh bleh bleh, but we sat down through the whole movie/game …hehe we might as well just have changed to something else or done something more constructive, but we chose to be an audience.

As the fighter, when you hear people criticize you it’s because they chose to watch you, they want to know how you do what you do. Critics love what you do, and because they cannot do it better than you can do … they’ll find a way to make you feel like you are lesser than them. Oh well, such is life.

Listen to your critics, don’t ignore them, they could have something that might be of help … they might not bring it out politely or the way you’d like to hear it and that’s why as the fighter, crocodile skin should be on you. Also confidence in what you do makes you look like quite the catch *wink*. Considering the critics don’t know what you’ve gone through to be where you are … so why should you care less about them.

Quote of the Day

“Constructive criticism is about finding something good and positive to soften the blow to the real critique of what really went on.” ~ Paula Abdul

“Criticism, like rain, should be gentle enough to nourish a man’s growth without destroying his roots.”

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*