I don’t know what crossed your mind when you read those words. For me, it was the don’t rush challenge song. Very unrelated to what I’ll be going on about today, in case you were wondering. Do you remember watching the challenge, though? It was just the beginning of what seems to be our new way of living. We were on lockdown; most of us had never lived through a pandemic before, so we were figuring out how to exist in one. A challenge like this was the closest to reality then, and it was just amazing to see the beauty around us, even in such trying times.
On to today’s conversation, I have been thinking about the concept of time lately. Not time in the sense that it’s now 5:00 pm (home time, but not home time because I am working from home), or we have 30 minutes to do this. More like the duration in which you let things simmer, and instead of looking at the actual time (clock or period), you look at the content that’s cooking to determine whether it’s ready to serve or not. And if it’s not, you give it more time to get to that point where you are content with the result.
Looking back at how things have turned out in my life and listening to other people’s stories, I have come to respect this concept of time – because if all else fails, at the very least, give it time!
Giving things time brings clarity; it brings closure; it brings healing; it brings respite; it brings understanding, and so much more.
At that moment, you will be going through what could be your most challenging moments; whether it’s a heartbreak, loss of a loved one, loss of employment, an illness, a betrayal, or a failure, time can look like it’s dragging. It looks like you will be stuck in that rut forever, and it sucks! In most cases, it’s so difficult to see beyond that challenging situation, and so it’s possible to switch off the stove and remove the food from the stove before it cooks properly.
Giving it more time means that you’re welcoming the possibility of seeing yourself beyond those situations and that those situations will mold you into hopefully becoming a better, healthier, freer you. The same way you can’t rush something that’s cooking is the same way you shouldn’t rush some of the things that are happening in your life; otherwise, it feels like everything is spinning out of control, and you can’t get a handle over the situation.
When you’re making life-changing decisions, give them a little more time and allow it to simmer down – this means, if your mind is on overdrive, give yourself time to relax and get your thoughts together. If you’re feeling angry, give yourself time to cool down and be rational. If you’re feeling overly emotional, give yourself time to feel all these emotions and make something tangible out of them. If you’re feeling defeated, give yourself time to release the pressure, make sense of the why and figure out the next steps you need to take.
I’ll leave you with this quote by Seneca:
Only time can heal what reason cannot.