Girlfriends *Irreplaceable*

When we were kids, and anti-boys we would have girl cliques, girl sports, girl stuff going on but as we grow older and older, it all starts to fade … we get boyfriends and new friends (who are mostly boys) … and somehow we all go separate ways. No meeting, no pep talk chats , no small girl cliques, no being there for each other, no more stupid stunts … the boys take more priority in our lives.

I am not excluding myself from this category because I’m one of those girls who’ve done that. Truth be told I learnt my lessons the hard way, but I’m glad I did. Boyfriends are IMPORTANT, I love mine and they can be your everything but really not EVERYTHING, there’s that thing he doesn’t have * HE’S NOT A GIRL*. From my experience, the thing I always said to myself, “Kawi, never disown your friends because of your boyfriend”. The best way to do that, was to make an introduction, and make him meet them so that they can also be friends (thank God it wasn’t so hard, because he’s the friendly kind), then he would appreciate and be okay when I’m with them because they’re an important part of my life.

For my girlfriends,

There are those girly stupid things you want to do but you cannot do them alone and you cannot drag your boyfriend to do, that’s just unfair and today I just want to say, “I thank God for My Girlfriends.”

I might not be the first person they call when they have something going on *good or bad*, maybe they don’t even remember I exist at that moment, but at least when I join them, I feel like the thing I was missing has been found, and it just feels good to be with them. And during this weekend, is when it got me thinking, that honestly, I’m gonna be there for my girlfriends when they need me or at least I will always try to.


You will meet up for coffee, lunch, dinner and you will start off where you left off … it’s like you’ve always been there, there’s no awkwardness of any sort, no shyness, no pretending … you are just happy and just you.

With men, there’s that awkwardness … there’s the I need to pull myself together, what am I going to wear, how do I look, what do I say … I hope it doesn’t go wrong … yaddi-yadda vibes.


They will cry with you when you are going through a terrible time or at least they’ll sympathize with you and tell you it’s going to be alright because they have experienced the same, if not going through the same thing — Girls are the ones who help you out of a situation, they are the ones who talk some sense into you…which if a guy tried, he will know better not to…lol

“A good friend is cheaper than therapy”  ~Author Unknown

Cry in front of a guy and he’ll be embarrassed and confused … get yourself together maen! Sympathy … ummm men? *say something*, talk sense … by the time you’re reaching there chances are that you will be considered to be whining a bit too much.


They will love you for who you are, even if you’re bitchy or being a bum, they will tell you, you are bitching and being a bum, and feel like there’s no love lost.

“You can always tell a real friend:  when you’ve made a fool of yourself he doesn’t feel you’ve done a permanent job”  ~Laurence J. Peter try tell a girl she’s being bitchy *OK, don’t try, unless you want your eye gorged out*


If you’ve gained weight or lost weight they’ll be open with you  … “Chic, you’ve gained so much weight, what are you feeding?” … sounds quite simple, wait until a man says it … hehe

“Cherish the friend who tells you a harsh truth, wanting ten times more to tell you a loving lie”  ~Robert Brault,


They always have 411 about everything and in detail … so you can sit for hours, talking about who’s doing what, going where, seeing who, doing who … lol, but really, I wouldn’t call that gossip, it’s just updating our databases, of what going on everywhere.

It just looks bad on a guy going on and on about irrelevant stuff *read very relevant to us*


Going for shopping … you can drag a girlfriend through the whole market or mall looking for something that you will eventually not get and you will get everything that you had intended not to get and you know what? That’s no big deal, because she gets you, because she has probably done the same.

It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them.  ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Men and shopping … that’s synonymous to torture unless you have identified something you are going to collect it and pay … otherwise it’s not going to go down so well. You’ll either end up arguing or buying something just to avoid the look :p


You can do sleep overs … sit, drink, watch movies, beautify thy selves (nails and what not), chat in between movies (that guy is hot, this one is … bleh, bleh, bleh) and it’s fun and mostly theraputic.

haha you wish … No, I’m not describing a sleep-over at a guys house.


They will give you all the psyche you need to go for parties, make you dance like a mad woman … even if you had loudly and clearly declared how much you don’t want to party or you’re tired… they know how to get to your nerves the right way.

“In everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out.  It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being.  We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit”  ~Albert Schweitzer

You’re tired and you don’t want to party … ” okay, you can stay at home, then I’ll go out, have fun and I’ll find you here” … that’s a guy for you. He just got to your nerves the wrong way.


When they see that you need them, even if without saying, they will come running to make sure you’re handling it alright. They see you and they know something’s not right and they try to make it right.

“If a friend is in trouble, don’t annoy him by asking if there is anything you can do.  Think up something appropriate and do it” ~Edgar Watson Howe

Well, I can’t say men don’t, they do, if you have a connection, they will notice and do something about it. Otherwise, you will have to tell them what you want and how you want it, or you’ll just have to dream on.


Those are the friends I have so far … and that’s why I thank God for them, I have learned a lot from them; I have learnt to be reliable, available, trustworthy, imaginative, quick to grasp stuff, capture inside jokes, keep time #iTry and most of all, have so much love!

I won’t name and shame them, because even if I do, not all of them read my blog :p *lame excuse* but if you read you’ll just know. I have girlfriends from everywhere, at least you’re one if I meet with we start off from where we left off. Some old, some new … but all together, I appreciate you all, and I really thank God for you, and may you all find all the happiness and be full of love to spread and share to all those who need it.

TO THE MEN —> We women, cannot do without you, you make life beautiful and thank you for being there … We thank God for you too and may you have all the love, so that you can love us girls to bits and treat us like the princesses we are. But on that note, don’t deny your girlfriends time with their girlfriends … they are IMPORTANT too. Fair?

It’s weird how, “Men kick friendship around like a football, but it doesn’t seem to crack.  Women treat it like glass and it goes to pieces”  ~Anne Morrow Lindbergh , just read the quote and figured that is so true … hehe men are lucky bastards (in a good way though, if you know what I mean.)


“A good friend is a connection to life – a tie to the past, a road to the future, the key to sanity in a totally insane world” ~Lois Wyse

“The best way to mend a broken heart is time and girlfriends” ~ Gwyneth Paltrow

Signing Off  ~~~ *Kawi*