Realizations – patience and perseverance

My version of patience and perseverance in which case before I came to understand those two terms my relationship with them was on a scale of 1 to 10 say at 4.5, being on the higher side of the lower part of the scale, which I could say is coupled by the fact that I at least have faith and optimism.

Well in the dictionary, they say Patience is : “Bearing or enduring pain, difficulty, provocation, or annoyance with calmness.” “Tolerant; understanding: an unfailingly patient leader and guide.” ”Persevering constant.” “Capable of calmly awaiting an outcome or result; not hasty or impulsive.”

Perseverance on the other hand is: “To remain constant to a purpose, idea, or task in the face of obstacles or discouragement.”

I am not trying to spoil my c.v by saying that my levels of patience and perseverance are low … hehe well, I happened to find out or realize how important it is to have those two qualities. This also requires faith, because it’s putting your all in something that you are not so sure will succeed or will go in the direction that you want it to. There are chances of it failing.

“It’s a case of see the glass half full and not half empty kind of thing.”

How I happened to realize this two things, is by going through a rough patch, I shall not narrate it, considering it could be quite a small thing to others … don’t want to leave you saying “shiiish and she’s complaining” … I shall just leave it to your imagination, where you could put your own situation into this I know what you are thinking.

Anyway, I had reached my dead end, you know making wrong decisions, having fears that I couldn’t fathom, expecting to be understood while I can’t understand myself … that kind of dead end. And there is one thing I was asked that left me thinking, eeerrrrr!!! Are you patient? Can you just persevere for a little while? Can you think long-term instead of short-term?

First of all, I want to thank whoever asked me this 3 questions, because out of all the questions I have ever been asked those were the three hardest questions to answer, let alone the exam questions you are left clueless, at least those ones you either did not read so you don’t know or you read and you just did not get it. But this is my life we are talking about… it’s you, they are supposed to be the easiest ones to answer.

Those questions, gave me a completely different view on things 360o , of course at first I was thinking “How can you ask me that, what exactly are you getting to?”

To be honest, saying it from my point of view, we are all attracted or moved towards things that are the easiest to get and/or are sure we will easily benefit from them (true/false?), no one wants to suffer at all. That’s why you will find someone rushing to where money is easily acquired such as Pyramid Schemes, get double your investment with no struggle at all, casino’s all you have to do is enter a coin and Kaching!! you could’ve won a lottery, Getting married to a rich person with no love or care just because it’s an easy life (or so you think)… where you will have a free car, house, clothes…bleh bleh bleh, while you sit around and do nothing(ok, maybe shop around for more things that you can get…lol), not knowing that the rich person who has managed to get all that money sweat for it.

Let me get to the point now, to explain better I likened this three patience, perseverance and long-term thoughts on the different aspects of life:

I likened this it to an Unborn child all the way to when the child is born and grows .

When a woman first gets pregnant, I will easily explain it if the pregnancy is a by mistake, that is you were not expecting it. What’s the first thing that crosses your mind? #Oh no!! #Should I or shouldn’t I keep the baby? #What to do? This is where you’re true test of character comes in, you’re actions at this point determine yours and your baby’s future. I respect mothers by the way, because when you are pregnant and you carry the baby in your womb for 9months that to me is patience and perseverance, it’s not the easiest of things to do, but it’s something you have to do. In between those 9 months it can be quite hectic, I shall not get into any gory details because I haven’t experienced it myself but at least i have seen. When a baby is born, it’s a bundle of joy, but besides the joy there are so many other things, the expenses, the expectations, the anxiety, the newness of being a mother all this requires those three things. You have to be patient enough to see the child grow, there are times things are thick – sickness, expenses, and through all this as a mother you need to persevere and see that all the obstacles are sorted to the end – mothers would work themselves out to see that their children lead the good life and you will need to think on the long-term, what is it that your child will eat and be educated with, the life you would want them to live.

I likened it to being new in a work place.

If I could ask? , I know everyone would want to get a very high paying job, become a manager or CEO of an industrious professional firm that is well-known, get all the benefits/allowances you can think (am talking entertainment, fuel, hefty hosing allowance not common ones like insurance). This time you are asking a fresh graduate from campus, and that’s what they actually want for a first job (talk of aiming high). I was there, and trust me that’s what I wanted as well…until I came to realize some thing called EXPERIENCE, you just don’t get there (say 1 among 1000 are lucky to … this being a guess), you have to have worked you’re ass to get there, know how things are run.. you rise to the top. “You have to climb a ladder from the first step, not the other way round.” You will be given work that makes you think, this is not what I studied to do, this is not in my calibre, trust me patience you will require, as well as being humble, this patience will lead you to being persevering and you will be able to grow in the industry. and if you are thinking long-term, the better because then you’re desires to become that manager and C.E.O will have borne much fruits and it won’t be an empty desire.

I likened it to a relationship

Again if I could ask, many would just want to have their cake and eat it? I mean, no compromising, whereby everything should fall into the right place immediately sounds to me like the perfect life. Funny, in a relationship there are two extremely different people … by different I mean, character, personality, looks, complection, fingerprints…lol the biggest difference, one is a male species, the other is a female species (oops forgive my terms). Both have to work to make things fall into place, you have to be patient with each other to be able to learn each other well enough, you have to be persevering because it’s not everyday things are going to be so rosy, many at time the thorns predominate. You have to think in long-term because am assuming this is the person you are planning to spend you’re lifetime with.

I likened it to starting up a new business

You know coming up with ideas is quite a very easy part because all you have to do is think and be creative, then comes the part where you’re implementing the concept. That’s the hardest. It’s good to teach yourself to appreciate what people have done because starting up a business is crazy (i haven’t started one yet, but even imagining it is just crazy in itself). You need to be patient while planning out your business.. the finances, the human resource, the infrastructure they all just don’t come, you have to work hard and sweat for them. Rough times where you have no money or the personnel are acting up or they are pushing you to the edge, you need perseverance. You need to visualize your business in future, that is, have goals and objectives that you’ve set to achieve in order for your business to grow and generate revenue and maybe give back to the community.

He(namewitheld) says telling me something is like opening a can of worms, clearly out of those three question came an eruption of thoughts from different perspectives.

With so much said, hoping you’ll even manage to reach the end … here, i found the following quotes quite intriguing:

“Try and fail, but don’t fail to try”

“Perseverance is the hard work you do after you get tired of doing the hard work you already did”

Signing Off — *Kawi*