Why do I even care?

I can bet, there’s a point in your life you have asked yourself “Why do I even care?”

So this thought was escalated yesterday, although it’s hit me now. I was having a conversation with my friends after dinner. There’s something we call a #permadate with @Wanjamajid where we meet every Wednesday and we have featuring guests such as @matrixster @milonare @Mwanikih. The meeting is for laughs, eating and catching up.

So anyway on our way out as we are saying our byes *mchwapses…lol* a twitter discussion comes up. Ever heard of those people who say something like “5 people have unfollowed me!” , shiiish how did you know there are people unfollowing you, do you cram the number of people following you. I mean someone developed an application to track down who has unfollowed you its called qwitter. *sigh*

Then I thought to myself, besides that. There are so many other things we find ourselves caring about, that just doesn’t make sense as to why you even care about them. Some things could be so irrelevant in your life but you just find yourself even getting to the point of depressing about them.

Let me do what I do best, give illustrations:

My first will go to twitter, the people who follow you barely know you, actually they don’t. so when they unfollow you, why the hell would you care?

Some people you don’t even know talk bad(or say nasty stuff) about you, which chances are that it’s just a rumour they have heard from other irrelevant people but it’s not true. and you feel sooo bad. Again why do you even care?

You meet a guy/chiq for a date and they don’t call you back. so that means you haven’t even gotten to know them. You get depressed because of that, why do you care anyway, I mean just assume it didn’t happen. so yah, why do you even care?

You come out of the house, you’ve made contact with the mirror I presume, but then when you hit the streets, you are busy pulling skirts, adjusting trousers, belts….worrying your hair hasn’t been blown off, checking if your shoes are intact…hehe why do you even care? You look nice.

You’re friends ditch you and go out without you and don’t tell you of the plans…then later on they narrate to you how they went for a party or you see pictures *ouch* bottom line is they didn’t invite you, so why fret…why do you even care?

Your workmate is making your life at work miserable *it could be your boss too* but you can just ignore them, provided you get your salary at the end of the month after toiling. But you are always so depressed…why do you even care?

Your boyfriend/girlfriend or friend doesn’t call you or text you, i mean you’ve just been forgotten…lol for lack of better words. Why do you even care ? Like really, i mean you have yourself and those many other people (who you probably don’t even care about…woi!)

You’ve been invited to a party by friends. Then you get frustrated on what to wear. You want to look smashing hot…for who? why do you really care? I mean just be you and dress what you have, it doesn’t have to frustrate you because they are your friends anyway, but it does.

Someone promises you something out of the kindness of their heart, but doesn’t come through because of certain constraints… then you become mad and angry, i mean they were even doing you a favor. So why do you get mad, why do you even care?

Had to put this one – You enter a competition like “Kenya Blog Contest“and expect people to vote you’re blog but they don’t and you feel bad/like a looser. I mean why do you even care, it’s just a contest to get more people to see your work (you get more stats by the way). *Look who’s talking -from the loosing end…lol*

Those are just but a few instances. It’s amazing how it’s something we can’t avoid, it just happens automatically, it’s human. We all over sudden find ourselves caring and getting depressed over things that we shouldn’t even give a second thought about.

If only we used to question ourselves before we care or worry about something. And considering all this is dependent on another person. The 1st thing you should ask yourself is – “Does this other person even care about me?” by this I mean your welfare, your happiness, your feelings and so on.

If you’re answer is NO, then I bet you should emulate this kid on the pic below:

Wow…awwwww  he looks so cute…lol, You should probably be doing the same when you see you are about to get sad or depressed about something that doesn’t add up or make sense… or something you shouldn’t be giving a hoot about.

So weird how somethings affect our moods and spoil your day, and when you tell someone else they go like “why do you even care?” yeah why?

QUOTES OF THE DAY:

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” ~ Dr. Seuss

“Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.”

“I think of life itself now as a wonderful play that I’ve written for myself, and so my purpose is to have the utmost fun playing my part.” ~ Shirley MacLaine

Signing off ~~~ *Kawi*

  • Ben

    How true. Listen to ‘petrified tales and the twice told joke’ by gym class. Also quite interesting.

  • Ahhh u r talking sense right there. Sometimes its the soliloquy that messes us up! Its this thing that keeps telling us that so and so is watching me yet its just frustrating oneself. sometimes we do allow other people to determine how we feel. we subconsciously yield to their control. we even measure ourselves against them. We want to fit in. We want to identify with others to be acceptable .John Rueben ,in his song “Defensive Offender”(from the album,The Hindsight) ,puts it plain and simple ; “I’m not better than you, you are not better than me,we are just flesh and blood looking for some identity. I’m not better than you, you are not better than me,we are just flesh and blood looking for some security” .
    So Kawi, why do we even care? what drives us? maybe its relationships? The need be seen as a good or a better being. whatever it is ,Kawi its not going to stop soon! Just the thought of that is frustrating enough! Hahahah! Cheers

    Wonder

    • I totally love it, when someone reads my post and understands what it is am trying to say, and gives additional pointers. Thanks Wonder 🙂
      So true it will never stop for sure…it’s just but a part of being human. I wish it could though. Some things would be much easier if you didn’t care about everything or everyone’s thought.

  • Check this out:

    I recently lost 42 followers, and I know who they are thanks to http://who.unfollowed.me #whounfollowedme

    LOL!!! Thats my stats. I laughed!

    Basically, I DON’T CARE!!!!!!!

    Nice post yet again siz! *thumbs-up*